I wrote this article back in September and I thought what better time to share it than right now, National Eating Disorder Awareness Week [February 26 – March 4].
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***As I wrote this, I tried to keep my own struggles with food and body image out of it. Everyone has a different story and different experience with these disorders one is not more important than the other, there is no right and wrong. Click here to understand what I mean by this and learn more about the many different eating disorders.
This is a tough topic to write about but I’ve done it once before (click to read) and I’ll do it again. Fat shaming, skinny shaming, slut shaming; shaming in general. A lot of people think they are promoting body image positivity, but putting one body type down to make another body type feel better is not positive.
I was scrolling through Twitter, my favorite place in the world, the other day, and I came across this video of a girl literally chasing people down on the street showing them photos of a girl’s rib cage and asking them how they feel about it. The responses were not positive, let me tell you.
The title of the video was something like “Is this the new trend?”. You can Google it if you want, rib cage trend video, but I am not posting the link on here because I don’t want to give that person anymore views than she has already gotten.
So, of course she interviews these people, a bunch of girls and the one token boy, and they all come up with some response about how the world needs more positivity around body image.
I’m going to stop you right there, you good citizens of the world who just want positivity for all body types. Maybe I’m wrong, but I don’t believe that standing around and judging girls because you can see their ribs when they wear bikinis is promoting positive body image.
I’d also like to go back to the opening statement of the video “Is this a new trend?” Having a visible rib cage, being super fit, or being “thicc” is not a trend. Body image is not a trend. But we talk about it like it is. Leave trends up to fashion. You can go buy a new shirt that is really in style, but last time I checked, you can’t go buy a new torso so that it matches the fashion of the season.
All this shaming needs to be put to a stop. Just because you can see one girl’s rib cage doesn’t mean everyone needs to look like that. Or if another girl has really great curves, not everyone needs to look like her either.
Something to keep in mind is that everyone sees their body differently. But for every little thing you hate about yourself and wish you could change, someone out there wishes that they had those. Remember this next time you look in the mirror, build yourself up so we can build each other up and stop breaking each other down.
Let’s leave trends to fashion and positive vibes only to body image.